Can We Stop With How "Long" We've Been Single?

In August, I launched a new Patreon tier called Group Zoom. It entails, as the title might suggest, a group Zoom! Each month, I’ll be going in on topics around singlehood that have historically caused us shame or feelings of failure, walking members of this tier through my process of reframing them, thereby feeling a whole lot better about this single thing. It’s a packed hour of discussion and community, and I love seeing your faces and connecting with you!

In between Zooms and podcasts, I write—like, a lot—about singlehood and other topics on my Medium. One recent essay was inspired by August’s Patreon Group Zoom: How “Long” You’ve Been Single Is A Bullsh*t Metric. The subject of shame around the length of time we’ve each been single came up, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. This essay digs into why we put so much shame energy into a metric that, when you actually break it down, it just one more thing that keeps us small in our singlehood. Why do we only see ourselves as depreciating in value, rather than appreciating for all the growth and natural maturation and wisdom that come along with just being a person? One wonders…

Read this essay on Medium. And if you can, please consider supporting my work as the creator of A Single Serving Podcast via Patreon. I’d love to see you in the September Group Zoom!