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Hi, I’m Shani

I’m the host of A Single Serving Podcast and the author of A Single Revolution. I’m changing the narrative around being single, because so far it’s had pretty bad PR. I’m not an advocate for singlehood. I’m an advocate for women feeling good while single—there’s a difference.

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The Single Girl Gift Guide 2020

The Single Girl Gift Guide 2020

What a year. What a TIME. And at the end of it all, we deserve presents. This year’s Single Girl Gift Guide is ready for you! While last year’s theme was all about surprising yourself, since as singles we don’t have people leaving surprises just lying around everywhere for us, this year, given…oh you know, everything, I’ve decided to focus instead on just making things nice. Let’s just be nice to ourselves this year. And whether you’re looking for a “big present” for yourself of just a gentle life upgrade to enjoy day-to-day, there are options for all of us below. Happy Holidays my lovelies.

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Swivel Bath Tray: At last! A bath tray that acknowledges we don’t all have claw foot tubs! How have I never seen this before? This genius tray attaches to just one side of your tub, and swings to allow you to ingress and egress your own bathtub without having to do Cirque du Soleil choreography. THANK YOU.

Buy on Uncommon Goods

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Cozy Gift Basket: Honestly sometimes I just need a giant mug of hot chocolate and an iPhone nowhere in sight. This cozy gift basket is perfectly sized for singles and contains all the essentials for you to take a moment to do not much at all.

Buy on Uncommon Goods

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Fireside Candle: If you don’t have a working fireplace (or even a nonworking one, who are we, royalty?), but you love the scent of a fire anyway, this candle is the most affordable way to get there. It is literally burning in my home as I type this, and it’s ACTUALLY affective at giving you that fireside scent without costing like $100. It’s currently on sale at Target, soooo…..

Buy at Target

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Candy Bento: I mean what is not to love about a bento box made entirely of candy treats, I ask you? These candy bentos by Sugarfina are right-sized for singles and you can buy any variation that you want (even if it’s not your birthday, etc.) If they’re sold out, never fear—they’re all listed with their restock dates, and you can sign up to be notified! You could also get this REALLY BIG VERSION of the same thing, if you were so inclined.

Buy on Food52

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Eye Makeup Upgrade: Please stop telling yourself that your old mascara isn’t expired yet. This stuff goes on your EYES, YOU GUYS. Uoma Beauty has some very smart gift sets for holiday this year, and my personal favorite is this one, because eye liner and mascara are really the only two things I don’t leave the house without. Comes with a mini mascara to keep in your bag, too!

Buy on Ulta

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Master Lock Security Bar: I’m a big fan of security-focused items for singles, as you’re well aware. Are they the sexiest holiday gifts to give yourself? No. Are they super cool and useful anyway? 100%.

Buy on Amazon

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This. Mirror. Speaking of sexy gifts…ohmygod. I am absolutely obsessed with this entire Etsy store. It is my dream aesthetic all in one place. Candice Luter is absolutely genius, her store is VERY highly rated, and I would like one of every mirror and piece of unique art thank you so much.

Buy on Etsy

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Oven Mitt: Listen, we’re not all adept in the kitchen, but we can still have a damn good time in there.

Buy on Amazon

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Feminist Book Club: I mean the name of the product really sells it, no? This intersectional monthly subscription box & podcast lets you customize what you receive, read and connect with a community, and vote on books that are coming up next, all while supporting work created solely from woman and queer-owned businesses. SUCH a good self-gift for 2020! (And any year, TBH)

Subscribe here

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Clutch/Wristlet Goodness: Remember wristlets? My wristlet game was so strong until I graduated law school and gave my favorite one to my friend Madeline and it’s been crossbodies for me ever since. This one combines all worlds into one extremely wearable and useful bag. Bonus: its leather is animal-free!

Buy on Galerie.LA

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Cats Pajamas: Every holiday gift list for single women that I ever create will contain a pair of cats pajamas this is my truth.

Buy on Shopbop

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Pat McGrath Eyeshadow: Pat McGrath is the queen of makeup and if you’re going to treat yourself to a luxe beauty gift this year, why not scoop up the most gorgeous eyeshadows in existence? Just a thought. Juuuust a thought.

Buy on Pat McGrath

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Ready-To-Bake Chocolate Mini Croissants: READY TO BAKE CROISSANTS. Are we clear on this? These exist, I really don’t understand what other information you need from me. This is your holiday morning breakfast, HANDLED. If, for some reason, you don’t want chocolate, they come in a plain version, too.

Buy on Williams Sonoma

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Cat Hammock: I mean it’s a cat hammock, hello.

Buy on Amazon

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Wrap Coat: So I know I talk about how we all get too tempted every year to buy SO MANY COATS but I have a theory. Remember that “mom coat” thing that was popular back when we could go outside without masks? I have a theory that this coat is about to be the new IT COAT. The belt, the collar, the price tag, it’s happening.

Buy on Amazon

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Beloved Box’s Self Care Gift Box: A classic, spa-like gift for us, from us. This incredible kit contains ALL of the following:

A Copy of the 21 Day Self-Love Workbook. It's Time! 21 Days to the Best Relationship With Yourself One BeLoved Signature Foaming Sugar Scrub in Calming Essential Oil Blend 2 oz One BeCalm Bath Tea in Calming Essential Oil Blend 2 oz One BeLoved Box Ultra Whipped Shea Butter in Calming Essential Oil Blend in 2 oz One BeCalm Bath Tea in Calming Essential Oil Blend 2 oz One BeCalm Bedroom And Body Mist One BeLoved Box Massage Oil Tealight Candle in BeCalm Essential Oil Blend One Full Sized BeLoved Box All Natural Goat's Milk and Calendula Flower Soap. WOW.

Buy on Beloved Box

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The Everlane Glove Boot: In terms of what I ACTUALLY want for the holidays, I’ve wanted these boots forever, and I think it’s time to just gift them to myself. They’re so cute, they have a short heel and are thus plantar fasciitis friendly, and they kind of look like socks. Gimme.

Buy on Everlane

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PIZZA POCKET: I can’t be the only person in the world aware of this item’s existence.

Buy on Amazon

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54 Thrones Body Butter Gift Set: Anyone else’s hands CRACKING OPEN WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN TO ME. 54 Thrones has countless products I strongly suggest you look into, but how could I resist showing you the cutest little gift set of all their butters! If you keep one on every surface in your home and every bag you leave the house with I guarantee you zero regrets about that strategy.

Buy on 54 Thrones

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Roller Skates: I’mmmm just gonna leave these right here. Honestly if the asphalt was more even in Brooklyn these are the only shoes I’d wear when leaving the house.

Buy on Urban Outfitters

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Caramel Advent Calendar: This is an advent calendar full of caramels and I’d just like you to know that things like this exist for us in the world. If you’re not much of a sugar person, there’s a tea version, too.

Buy on Food52

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Instant Pot WITH AIR FRYER: Did you know the Instant Pot got SMARTER? It fries things with air now! Also, if you already have an Instant Pot, you can just buy the air fryer lid because sometimes life works out real nice. (Make sure lid is compatible with your model!)

Instant Buy on Amazon

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A BOX OF CHEESE: I had you at hello, didn’t I?

Buy on Williams Sonoma

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The Strand’s Book Club: I really like book clubs, okay? Especially when they help support independent bookstores that are in genuine danger of closing this year. The Strand has several book club themes to choose from but feminist lit is my fave. Note that these are single-purchase boxes, so they make amazing gifts that surprise OURSELVES.

Buy them here

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KNC Beauty Eye Gels: I have been really into under-eye patches lately, that’s just what’s happening. This set is known as the gold standard in under eye brightening and depuffing, something I might need help with on a morning or two during the holiday season wink wink.

Buy on Sephora

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Dagne Dover Landon Carryall: Dagne Dover bags are some of my absolute FAVORITES. I have this bag in the large size, and when I go on “big” trips I use it as my carry-on bag. It’s a little too big for more regular use though, and thus I’ve had my eye on the medium size for quite some time, which would work as a roomy tote for quick weekend trips where a purse as my secondary bag won’t quite cut it.

Buy on Dagne Dover

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Fuck Everything Mug: While this charming kitchen asset comes in a variety of mug styles, I am quite partial to the enamelware/camping vibes of this one. Please feel free to make your selections regarding what can go fuck itself dependent upon the day and your mood.

Buy on Etsy

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The Ember Mug: In other mug news, I can’t be the only person who perpetually leaves cups of forgotten coffee in the microwave. If you too think it’s asinine that coffee has the audacity to grow cold, the Ember Mug is going to change your life. Or at least the temperature of your coffee.

Buy on Amazon

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Dolly Parton Sugar Cookie Mix: I’m sorry Dolly Parton has sugar cookie mix and I NEED IT POST HASTE.

Buy on Williams Sonoma

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Mason Jar Herb Garden: I love herb gardens for us. So often I find that herbs are sold in ridiculous quantities as applied to singles, and if we grow our own, that stops being a problem. Also its so CUTE.

Buy on Uncommon Goods

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Pink. Champagne. Truffles. Look, this is a post about HOLIDAY GIFTS FOR OURSELVES, MKAY. If you know a better treat for yourself than a pink champagne truffles you just let me know because I haven’t yet found it. These have pink-tinted white chocolate shells that are dusted with fine sugar and filled with milk chocolate ganache infused with Marc de Champagne. Are you kidding me?

Buy on Williams Sonoma

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Gold Huggies: The jewelry gift. But of course. Honestly it was really hard to pick a favorite from Matteo New York’s offerings, but I settled on the thing we’ll wear and therefore cherish the most often. You really can’t go wrong with a classic gold huggie.

Buy on Matteo

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Fuck Bandana: Lol this is just amazing.

Buy on Three Potato Four

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Weird Fruit Thingies: Wild idea: We’re going to be most likely more solo this year than in year’s prior, and if you need a fun holiday activity for yourself, mess around with these things! They’re the tablets that change sour flavors to sweet, etc., so you can set up your own special little “flavor tripping” party one night this holiday season. Brb I need to buy some limes.

Buy on Amazon

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Custom Pet Mug: Oh yes, you read that correctly. Your pet becomes a mug, and your kitchen therefore becomes complete. Yes yes you could get a basic monogram or something, but a mug specifically made as tribute to your beloved furry friend is simply way cooler.

Buy on Etsy

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Briogeo Hair Set: You know what I hate? Dry, brittle winter hair. You know how I prevent that? Briogeo. Seriously if you’ve never tried a sample of this brand in a Birchbox or something, it’s some of the most effective hair care I’ve ever tried, and this gift set is full of products you’ll really use til the last drop.

Buy on Sephora

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$10 Fleece Throw Blanket: If you can pick a favorite color, I commend thee.

Buy at Target

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